A friend of mine has a boyfriend overseas. They have been dating for couple of years and only meet once a year which means they have met each other like twice..........
My other friends (actually including me :p) have a doubt. We are not saying that "there is something wrong with the boyfriend" or what but we just have a doubt in our mind.
Yet the girlfriend thinks that they love each other so freaking much and no one can separate them. Even though they are far, the girlfriend feels they are so close. (Ok, with the current technology such as Skype, Instant messenger and everything; it is make things simpler)
Yes it is true that we can not see or feel the love between them, but it just so hard to believe that it is there.
Ok, actually we have a big doubt on the boyfriend and all of us smell something fishy fishy. But apart from that, how come the girlfriend still thinks that everything is okay okay?.... Doesn't she feel something fishy too?
I don't think so.
Today, when I saw the girlfriend and her situation - I start asking myself : was it really there? I'm not referring to the girlfriend and the boyfriend, I'm referring to myself.
Erma, was it really there? What you had years ago with someone, was it really there?
If you asked me at that time, I would definitely without a doubt - Yes!
But if you ask me now, my answer would be - I don't know.
I don't know whether it was really there at that time or just my imagination or just something that I felt at that time -- or it was something that I wanted to feel with him at that time.
Creepy huh.. Just like a movie called Inception (the one with Leonardo DiCaprio and the guy from 500 days of summer). You cannot separate between what you dreamed of (or what you wanted to feel) with the reality.
It is so creepy... And love is a creepy thing. ~~~~~~~
3 comments:
"All that time I never felt something was wrong, all the love, lovey-dovey things, romantic stuff, Romeo and Juliet kind of love were there and I felt that - at least at that time I really really believed that all of those things were there and real"
Oh Dear God,
if you don't believe in love and prefer to marry the person of your parents recommendation, then good for you....why mocking people who believed in love as if its unrealistic and childish ?, some people are happy with their full of love dating then marriage life, just because your past relationship were unhealthy doesn't neccesarilly mean everyone else relationships are unhealthy too.....
Dear Anonymous,
First of all, I don't think that you understand my post. I'm not mocking anyone, but if you or anyone else feel offended by my post, I'm sorry then.
I have a sense that you think you know me, but you don't. So do not conclude anything about me, about my believe, my marriage, and my past relationship.
FYI, my post is actually about me questioning what was really happening with me years ago.
One more thing yaa, i never wrote or mocked people who believe in love as unrealistic and childish. I might have different point of view with common people on love, but that doesn't means that I don't respect them with what they've believed in love. I don't believe in love but I do have respect for people who believe in love. It's a matter of choice. DO NOT judge me if you don't know me.
Erma
Hi..its anon again,
N/a Im not judging you or something, I concluded that you are mocking people believed in love as childish and unrealistic from your previous and this writing;
"When you are in my age, you will see love as a ridiculous thing.
it is no longer funny or make butterflies in your stomach fly..
it is more like a non-sense reason just to fulfill someone's ego..
When i was young, love is a funny-cute thing that can make butterflies in your stomach fly...
it gives red blush to your cheeks, sweaty hands and happy to the maxx feeling...
But now.. i see love has different excitement.
I'm not saying that love is a bad thing, it is just a reason.
Yes love is a reason for me.
Reason for someone to get what they want. n my sole opinion, love is a commercial term. People in entertainment and advertisement industries use it to sell their products. You can count by yourself how many movies, music and advertisements inspired by love - then compare with others that are inspired by different matters. This is not bad, they are just using love to earn money. See... love has become their reason to get income."
see...as if some people who believed in love are childish and unrealistic.
And refer to your above saying, I don't think that could be categorized as being respectful to people believe in love, could it? And don't get me wrong I'm not offended or anything I'm just simply saying.
Anyhow, i kinda get the impression that you were hmmm....unpleasant or disturbed... with my previous comment, I'm the one who feel sorry. this is YOUR blog, I don't wanna be a rude guess anyway...
cheers
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